The Curries

The Curries
Keith and Patricia

Wednesday, September 3, 2008

COMMUNICATE WITH STORIES

Shorty Currie was a great storyteller. He told stories of growing up in southern Tennessee during the depression and his memories were rich. He told of the war, of work, of hunting, of sadness, of laughter. We laughed until our sides ached and until the tears rolled down our faces. And the one who laughed the hardest of all was Shorty Currie. Shorty was my dad.

One important way to communicate with children is through stories. Values and life lessons have always been passed on through stories. Mom tells about her favorite doll, dad shares a practical joke. Uncle Steve remembers the winter we all went sledding, he lost control, and everyone ended up in the creek.

Stories capture the emotions and connect us with our past. Our kids need this today. David Walsh says, that the ones who tell the stories shape the culture. Unfortunately, we let Hollywood tell the stories far too often. Your kids are interested in your stories simply because they are yours and in a very real sense theirs, too.

Stories have a power to help kids make right choices. In stories, they see others make mistakes and they learn. Whenever we would use a knife, my dad would tell this army story.

When they landed in the Phillipines during WW II, one of his buddies decided to open a coconut with a bayonet blade. He called to Shorty, “Hey, Currie, you silly old fool, do you want a piece of coconut?” My dad laughed, refused, and passed the tent. The same guy then yelled, “Currie, get the medico!” He had placed the coconut between his legs and tried to cut it open, the blade slipped, severing the artery in his leg. In less than a minute, he was gone.

Do you think this caused me to be careful with a knife? You bet it did.

Our best movie screen is our God-given imagination. We have a great opportunity to help our children develop this gift. Just try. Begin. Choose some stories to tell. Make yourself a note or two so that you do not forget. I think you will be surprised at the results.

When our children were small, Patricia made up stories about a little monkey named “Pickety-Pockety.” She used this imaginary character to teach the consequences of bad choices. She didn’t have to preach because she captured them with a story. Then when we read the Bible, the kids would often make the connection.

Stories help us pass on values and principles “under the table” so to speak. It’s not didactic. It flows. It’s interesting. It’s worth the effort. Telling stories is one way to enable your children to think ahead. You are equipping them for life with stories.

SHAPE THE CULTURE; TELL A STORY!

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

Communication is the Relationship!

Our fifth child, Jean-Luc is a goal-setting, “get it done NOW” kind of guy. Recognizing that this often hurts relationships, he decided to focus more on building relationships. A friend of our family who seems to have a gift in relationships is Jamie Johnson. So Jean-Luc asked him how to build better relationships. Jamie encouraged Jean-Luc to focus on communication by saying this: Communication is the relationship!

Apparently, God sees communication and relationships as closely related also. Look at these two verses in John, chapter 1.

John 1:1 In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. And verse 14: The Word became flesh and dwelt among us.

Somehow I get the idea that God wants to communicate with us. This “word” thing, the ability to develop and use language is a characteristic that separates man from animals and identifies us with God.

As God spoke in Gen 1, his words were effective, creative words. His words brought order into chaos, light into darkness, life into dust. His words gave purpose and direction as he commanded the man and woman, “Reproduce, fill the earth, cultivate the garden, name the animals.”

God’s word was the foundation of life.

Jesus reinforced that by saying that we live by the word of God.

Jesus said that hearing and doing his words is like

building your house on a firm foundation.

When we do God’s word, His words are both the foundation and the building material of our lives. His word brings substance to our relationship with him.

Communication is the relationship.

Our words do that for our children. Our words are the 2 x 4’s of the structure of our children’s lives. Our words [founded on God’s words] build what will be the unseen framework of our children’s lives.

Once you have a child, you have entered into a 20 year building project!

We need to get up everyday aware that we are involved in this task….even if you only drive in one nail….

We need to speak what God speaks because his word is creative.

The wrong words are destructive.

Proverbs 18:21 says, “The tongue has the power of life and death,

and those who love it will eat its fruit.”

Therefore. . .

this becomes our talking emphasis, to talk God’s kind of talk to our children.

To communicate his heart, his plans, and when necessary, his discipline to them.

We agree with Jamie:

COMMUNICATION IS THE RELATIONSHIP! !